Dr. Scaglione's Six Parenting Pearls
1. You are your children's primary teacher and role model. Remember: they will imitate your behavior.
2. Children learn more from watching what you do than from what you say.
3. Treat your children respectfully. Be positive and supportive by using kind and encouraging words to build self-esteem.
4. Love your children with all your heart, but give them space to learn from their experiences and to think for themselves.
5. Always stay calm and in control when solving problems. Treat your children with consistence, patience and understanding.
6. Set limits with love and empathy while giving your children choices and decisions to make.
Discipline With Love and Logic
LOVE
It takes a great deal of love to...
- Find the positives in our kids when they act poorly.
- Hug them before we ask them about their homework.
- Set limits without anger, lectures, or threats.
- Hold them accountable for their poor decisions by providing empathy first and consequences second.
LOGIC
When we give this special kind of love, a wise type of logic grows in their minds: "When I make poor decisions, it makes my life pretty sad. I wonder how my next decision will affect me?"
"Discipline With Love and Logic" is based on love, which allows children to grow through their mistakes, and logic, which allows them to live with the consequences of their choices. Love and Logic is built on three simple ideas.
1) Set limits through enforceable statements.
2) Give choices within limits.
3) Consequences are given without anger.
Home and School Achievement
Homework affects achievement in school. Research tells us that time spent doing homework directly affects a child's achievement. Students who consistently do homework perform academically better than those who do not do homework. By doing homework, students can improve academic achievement in all subjects. This occurs across all grade levels for both high and low achievers.
Homework for the school-age child is an opportunity to learn the valuable organizational skills for strong study habits. Parents can "get the most out of homework for your child" when they understand the purpose of it and values it encourages.
The purpose of homework is to practice and strengthen academic skills.
Seven Hidden Values of Homework:
1. Responsibility: Homework is the child's responsibility. When parents get too involved they set the process on its head. The lessons get done, but the real lessons don't get learned.
2. Independence: Because this is the first time someone other than a parent assigns frequent tasks to the child, homework breaks new ground. How this golden opportunity is handled will enhance or obstruct the child's progress toward self-direction.
3. Perseverance: There's no point to a child's doing homework, if every time the child gets frustrated, parents step right in and make it better. Its OK to let the child struggle a little with a problem.
4. Time management: Children need to be told when to finish homework, not when to start it. That way instead of learning to waste time , the child learns to manage it.
5. Initiative: Like a muscle, the ability to be a self-starter strengthens with exercise. That's why it's essential that the child decides when it's time to begin each homework assignment.
6. Self-reliance: Homework can affirm a child's feeling of competency. Mismanaged, it deflates that feeling. Unfortunately, there is no in-between.
7. Resourcefulness: The ability to be inventive in the face of problems is the very stuff of being human. Homework provides a wonderful setting for the child to practice such cleverness.
